'Basketball Wives' Divorce -- I DON'T HATE YOUR GUTS ... Malaysia Tells NBA Hubby

"Basketball Wives" star Malaysia Pargo insists her divorce from NBA player Jannero Pargo is NOT as nasty as it seems ... telling TMZ Sports she still wants to be friends after the split. 

We broke the story ... Malaysia just filed divorce docs in L.A. after airing her beef with the Charlotte Hornets player on various social media platforms ... and it seemed the two were ready to go to war. 

But now, Malaysia tells us both she and Jannero are keeping things friendly for the good of their 3 children -- and are committed to not only being civil toward each other, but friendly.

"Our family is our top priority and while we have decided to amicably go our separate way," Malaysia says, "We are both committed parents and plan to remain friends as we co-parent our three children. At this time we do not wish to discuss the details of our divorce. We ask that you keep our family in your prayers."